As you know I’ve been fortunate to find an amazing woman recently. She really is an amazing person - she’s intelligent, driven, beautiful, funny, outgoing, and we have so much in common. We’ve been on quite a few dates and I’ve been truly happy for the last few weeks.
This was until last night, after another amazing evening of pizza, a comedy night, and kissing, when I decided it was the right time to tell her about this blog. From the moment I told her about what sort of things were on the blog, she started looking at me as if I was a stranger, some sort of monster - she could hardly stand to be near me. She felt physically sick thinking about the fact that there are photos here of me with other people.
I knew deep down that she wouldn’t approve of this sort of thing, but part of me clung onto the hope that somehow she’d overlook it and see me for who I am, not what I’ve done in the past. I was wrong. And now I’ve lost the first person I was looking forward to being in an amazing relationship with in a long long time.
I guess what I’m saying is that this has been a massive wake-up call for me. I think honesty is one of the most important things in life, so I don’t regret telling her, but being honest about things doesn’t change the way people see them. Society today isn’t ready for things like this to be talked about and participated in, and although it’s nice to think that we should be able to participate in whatever we choose without fear of consequences, that’s simply not the reality.
I’ve been part of tumblr for a few years now, and it has given me a creative outlet, a sexual outlet, it has enabled me to make friends, and it has given me body confidence I could hardly have dreamt of before I joined. However, this isn’t the real me. It’s an alter-ego. It’s a fantasy. It’s not real. It’s time for me to wake up and live my life offline. I want a normal life with normal relationships, and now I realise that this means leaving tumblr behind.
I will miss being a part of this community, and I hope you will remember my time here fondly. I’ll be deleting this blog in a few days time.
I wish all of you all the best in life, and hope you find fulfillment in whatever you do.
songsofthedeep